Meeting someone and reaching a point when you already understand each other’s quirks is probably one of the hardest things to do. It falls under life’s many “easier-said-than-done” goals.
The dating scene may get so exhausting for some, knowing that you’ll have to go through another round of getting to know a stranger without any certainty of what the future might hold. And if it does lead to an engagement or marriage, in the end, it’s still not going to be as smooth-sailing as it is in your head. But as any hopeful romantic might say, love is always worth the risk and that your willingness to commit and work hard for a relationship will eventually reward you with happiness beyond your imagination.
One way to nurture a relationship is through understanding each other’s love language. Marriage counselor Gary Chapman found similar experiences with the hundreds of couples he had talked with at work. This led him to create the five love languages that we know of today namely Receiving Gifts, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. A love language is how you prefer to give and receive love with the five aptly named as to what it is.
One misconception for Receiving Gifts suggests that the people with this love language are materialistic. This couldn’t be farther from the truth because it’s not really the material things that make the heart of these people skip a beat. It’s when Fred remembers Ina after a hard day’s work and buys her favorite donuts before going home. It’s when Mindy gets Mark the jacket he was looking at on a magazine cover. It’s when Edna prepares her kid’s lunchbox sets and leaves them notes on heart-shaped paper. It may sound cliche but gifts have a great value to people under this group because of the thought, the effort, and the reminder it serves that they are loved. People who love receiving gifts are sentimental of tangible items that remind them of a great relationship they have or used to have.
How to Tell If Your Love Language is Receiving Gifts
This is not rocket science. There are many telltale signs that determine if Receiving Gifts is your or your partner’s love language. For you to communicate what you want and also satisfy your partner’s needs, know your love language is giving gifts through these signs:
- You love shopping for yourself and for others.
- You always buy souvenirs before going home from a vacation.
- You think you give the best gifts ever for any occasion and people attest to this.
- You have wrapping paper and gift bags in stock.
- You remember the occasion of every gift you have received and the people who gave it to you.
- You can’t let go of gifts even though they're already old and dusted.
- You like to collect memorabilia of any sort.
- When you know your friend or your special someone is stressed, you send them food or flowers to cheer them up.
Managing Expectations
When your love language is receiving gifts and your partner gives little to no value to them, it’s easy to feel frustrated and unloved in the relationship. So instead of sulking in self-pity and harboring hatred towards your partner, know how to manage expectations without changing yourself. This is achieved through communication. Don’t expect your partner to be able to read your mind and get you what you want. We know it’s romantic to think that he or she will know what to buy or what you want without asking you. He may get it right sometimes (even by luck) but that’s not always the case. Save yourself from any heartbreak. If you really want something, either get it yourself or be open to your partner about it.
Gifts also use resources. Even though it’s not about the price tag, a conversation about money may be helpful to bring about. In this way, you’d be able to manage your expectations.
Gift Ideas
A thoughtful gift is not a waste of money when you think of the value it’ll give to improve a person’s quality of life. Investing in a well-thought-out gift also makes its value last longer. Since most people work from home now, consider giving your special someone something he or she can use at his or her workstation. You’re in luck because Flexispot is celebrating its Standiversary on September 27 to 29 and will put some of its bestsellers on a discount of up to 40% off. Here are two you might want to look at:
Comhar All-in-One Standing Desk Wooden Top
This multi-functional desk has a height adjustment feature, USB charging ports, and an embedded drawer. You may quickly change the height ranging from 28.3" to 47.6" using its up and down buttons and four programmable height presets with your saved preferred height settings. It comes with three Convenient USB charging ports (2x USB Type-A, 1x Type-C) for your different changing needs. You won’t have to worry about entangled cords too. Lastly, it has an embedded pull-out drawer that gives integrated storage space for desk or office supplies.
Price Now: $499.99
Price on September 27 to 29: $339.99
Sit2Go 2-in-1 Fitness Chair
To boost your partner’s energy while working, you might consider giving him or her a desk bike. This one from Flexispot has a breathable mesh fabric that makes up for a comfortable and stable backrest. It has a firm seat cushion and provides no pressure support. The bike also has a one-touch lever to easily adjust the seat. Perfect for staying active, it has a calorie tracker to monitor weight loss and a customizable cardio feature to adjust resistance levels.
Price Now: $399.99
Price on September 27 to 29: $279.99
Final Thoughts
Do not be pressured when satisfying your partner’s need to feel loved by receiving gifts. It’s never about the price tag but rather, the thought and the intention behind the gift that matters.
